Girl Says Her Pal Was Planning a ‘Pretend Marriage ceremony’ for Presents and Social Media

A girl was “shocked” to seek out out that her good friend was planning a “faux” marriage ceremony for the needs of getting presents and producing social media content material.

In a publish on Reddit‘s “Marriage ceremony Shaming” discussion board, the lady started by explaining that she was requested to be a bridesmaid within the marriage ceremony and “had a gown and the whole lot.” However eight months earlier than the nuptials, the supposed bride-to-be confessed that she and her companion weren’t really going to get married — no less than legally.

“[She said she] needed to do it for social media and for presents,” the lady wrote. “I used to be shocked and appalled. Her causes for not wanting to really legally marry him had been loopy.”

After studying this, the lady determined to bail on the “marriage ceremony” — and the friendship.

“Lengthy story brief, I informed her I couldn’t arise in her marriage ceremony realizing all of this, and instantly resold my bridesmaid gown and by no means talked to her once more,” she shared, including, “It is loopy the extent individuals will go to… I typically surprise if she went by way of with this sham of a ‘marriage ceremony.’ ”

The girl later edited her publish to offer some clarification concerning the would-be groom and his data of what was occurring. “He didn’t learn about this. He thought they’d be legally married. She informed me she was by no means going to ship [the marriage license] in.”

Within the feedback, she additionally shared a few of her former good friend’s causes for not wanting the wedding to be authorized.

“A pair had been: ‘His credit score rating isn’t excessive sufficient. His job isn’t ok. It’s a simple method out for me once I resolve to finish it with him. He doesn’t have cash for a home. He travels a lot.’ And these two fought nonstop and had a poisonous relationship for my part,” she wrote.

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Among the many fellow Redditors who weighed in on the state of affairs within the feedback, many shared that they may perceive the good friend’s perspective.

“I feel there’s a universe the place your good friend made the best alternative for her. So many individuals simply need a marriage ceremony and find yourself marrying the fallacious particular person in consequence,” one particular person wrote. “Possibly she knew herself and knew she simply needed a marriage, though committing to that particular person for the remainder of her life was a mistake.”

The identical commenter added: “Not saying having a marriage only for the photographs and presents is the best factor to do, however possibly that is an okay second alternative, or no less than higher than really getting married simply since you need a marriage ceremony.”

One other particular person agreed, writing, “If certainly one of my buddies did this, I might type of suppose it was nice. So many individuals rush into marriage as a result of they need the social standing of a marriage or it is the time of their life they really feel they must.”

Nonetheless, another person countered, “However they need to be sincere about the truth that the precise ‘marriage’ facet of the marriage is not actual. That method, it permits individuals to resolve for themselves in the event that they wish to entrance the associated fee for journey/presents and/and even be in attendance.”

One Redditor even identified that the good friend’s marriage ceremony may not have been as “faux” as she believed.

“Your good friend ought to double verify the legal guidelines the place she lives,” they suggested. “Within the state of Iowa, that counts as a typical regulation marriage and they’re legally married within the eyes of the regulation, as a result of they current themselves as a married couple in public; individuals have cause to consider they’re a married couple; and so they cohabitate and have shared curiosity in the identical family.”